We tend to talk about change as something that is positive. Historically, we can look back on times where change has taken place and know that it worked out for the best. What we tend to forget, however, is about the struggle that occurred at the time of the change. Personal change is not all that different than this. It rarely happens quickly, and even more rarely does it happen easily.
Creating a positive change can lead to long-term growth. However, this does not mean that it will be easy. Changing a pattern creates a temporary inconsistency, and even if when you intellectually know it is for the better, it can still be difficult. The changes leading up to a long-term change often occur in small increments. This is not different for those who are participating in therapy. Although counseling that is a voluntary activity, it is natural that you could become uncomfortable. Looking at dysfunctional patterns, and taking full responsibility for them is intimidating. Yet the process is not impossible at all. This is especially true if you do the following to help:
1. Remember your goals: Keep in mind why you are doing what you are doing.
2. Notice daily successes: Pay attention to the small achievements that you achieve each day. This will help to remind you that your work is not in vein.
3. Don’t rely on others to fill your self-esteem reserve: Compliments are nice to receive. However if you use this as your primary basis to rate your own success, you are much more likely to give up on your goal altogether.
4. Talk about your frustrations with others: Although you don’t want to rely on the feedback of others, talking about your frustrations may give you some good feedback. This information may be some that you have not previously noticed yourself.
This list is not an exhaustive list, but these considerations can help you to hold onto your goals. Remember that it is natural to become uncomfortable, but being open, and talking about this can help. One of the primary reasons that people give up is that they don’t notice the small changes. Therefore, remember to notice and appreciate those small changes, and you’ll be well on your way.[stextbox id=”custom”]If you are in the Tucson area and you are looking for a Tucson Therapist or psychologist, call me now to see how I can help you reach your goals. [/stextbox]